The Passionate Rhythm of Right Work: Meet World Class Drummer, Barbara Borden
When we are truly in our right work, there is a powerful and passionate rhythm to our work. We are in synchronicity with the most basic and personal beat that comes from our hearts.
Barbara Borden is a woman and world class professional drummer, and definitely, in her right work!
What is right work?
Right work is when our strongest talents, skills and abilities, our core values as people, and our current top priorities relative to life, are aligned with the work we do.
In my book Finding Right Work: Five Steps to a Life You Love, I describe the process more fully.
I did not know who Barbara really was, where she had come from, or what passion and tenacity had led to her career.
How did she become a world class drummer?
How did she earn a living in music?
What was Barbara’s story?
Barbara remembers many people saying that she should “forget about being a drummer,” especially a jazz drummer. How many times did she hear someone say, “Why don’t you get a real job?!”
Barbara’s early history is remarkable in how much support she did receive to pursue her love for drums.
Barbara gratefully points to her family. Her father left the family early on, leaving her mother, Barbara, and her twin sisters, to survive alone.
Survive they did! In fact, they thrived!
Barbara’s sisters worked as a vaudeville twin-ship, the “Borden Twins” performing with Lucille Ball (I Love Lucy), Jimmy Durante, Dean Martin and Jerry Lewis, in their primes. Barbara’s immigrant mother was always strongly supportive of Barbara’s love for drums. When Barbara was just 12 years old, she joined with four boys to play in a band for weddings and bar mitzvahs. Barbara had been fortunate to have grown up in a generally supportive culture. Even her Los Angeles public school teachers encouraged and appreciated the specialness of a little girl with a love for drums. She recalls writing a thank you song to one of her first music teachers who, “Let me play so free, letting me be me.”
Barbara’s career was not without setbacks.
Barbara had found a gig in a San Francisco club that let her drum every night with a salary that enabled her to get by financially. After six weeks of hard work, the club went bankrupt, and neither Barbara nor her fellow band members got paid.
For Barbara, this was “proof positive” that –few people (and certainly no woman) can make a real living working as a professional drummer. She stopped playing for six years.
Barbara got a “real job” as a lab technician, married, and divorced. She does not look on this time with any bitterness, but, instead, sees it as a time she got to experiment with those things she thought she thought she had been missing in life, by focusing so heavily on drumming.
But when a friend’s mother heard Barbara for the first time, drumming at home one night, she told Barbara that she had to go back to drumming. Barbara has never looked back.
Was Barbara ever afraid?
Yes!, Barbara recalls, as do many people who search for right work. The initial financial terror that comes from “jumping of the cliff” into financial uncertainty is daunting. She took a job as a bookkeeper part-time to dual track while discovering what her next right work was. Her vision was clear, but economically, things were precarious.
And then, miraculously, it all came together with the inception of Barbara’s dream band, Alive.
Alive had world-class talent, became financially viable, and was an all women jazz quintet.
Alive was an extraordinary achievement. It was an all-woman jazz band with its five members who were not only outstanding musicians, but, also, brought a unique wisdom and understanding to the group. “We had a full time therapist, to keep the band running smoothly,” Barbara says.
It worked. The band was wildly successful.
This was Barbara’s dream come true.
Life is change, and so are priorities relative to work. After eight years Alive broke up. Barbara was devastated. She says, it took the next fifteen years of her life to recover.
The Next Chapter
Barbara’s passion and commitment for music and drumming only deepened. She traveled around the globe, often bringing her drumming to distant and sometimes war-torn parts of the world. Barbara wrote music, recorded CD’s, taught classes, and engaged more and more in a passion and a talent she simply could not leave behind. Over time, Barbara worked in new bands, co-created a sole “percussion play” called She Dares to Drum with actor/director Naomi Newman, and integrated her writing, performance and teaching into a vibrant tapestry of successful and popular work.
Over time, Barbara had begun playing large ceremonial drums. One day, someone put his hand under her drum. The experience for him proved to be one of a soothing feeling and sense of well-being. Many people wanted to try the new experience.
What Barbara discovered from the seemingly chance event, is that music has vibrations that are themselves, healing. Barbara said, “I think we are going to find in the future is that light and sound are the two vibrational fields that will dominate our medical and health care systems.”
I asked Barbara what advice she could give to the rest of us who did not necessarily have the deep artistic talent Barbara has displayed throughout her work career. This was a question that Barbara understood very well.
“I think that when people are afraid, they tighten up,” Barbara said. “My advice to people is to do something that opens them up. For some people it can be a hot tub, swimming, or sitting by the ocean.”
And, of course, Barbara adds, “Or they can come and drum.”
Source: Huff Post